...what strangers think of my kids, whom they don't know, but okay fine, I want to stick up for my babes.
This post of mine at Strollerderby got one little snippety comment that made me want to defend Nat. (No, the other comments on the other posts haven't bothered me. It's not personal so whatever.)
Basically, someone suggested that Nat's bad behavior was being commented upon when someone asks her why she's not in school. And I certainly know what the commenter means. But that's really and truly not what happened. And I feel the need to clarify here, in my personal space, because Nat, in fact, has had stellar behavior lately, especialy considering her 3-year old world has just been turned upside down and inside out and backwards. The changes for Nat include moving to a new "house," sleeping in a new bed (we just got her regular one up here yesterday), living in not just a new city but an entirely new kind of place and neighborhood (from small-down and sleepy to urban and racing), ALL new people (we've had only one weekend visit with friends from Champaign, and we have more to come, but not for another week), a new schedule, featuring new parenting configurations--Mama Shannon is on mornings now AND nights, because Cole-Mom is out of town at work many days per week. This is the biggest change of all, because Nat is used to seeing Cole-mom 2-6 hours per day, and now she goes from 3-5 days at a time without seeing her at all. BIG change. And finally, Nat is wearing underwear most of the time now, having better days and worse, but adjusting to using the potty.
And sometimes, she is obstinate and doesn't listen to me and I get really frustrated with her until I recount all these changes and realize that when she stops listening, she is just putting on the brakes because she has overloaded on the changes.
But all-in-all, she is magnificently behaved.
We have also had at least three people voluntarily comment on Nat's excellent behavior. Two waiters have gone out of their way to do so and after finding out Nat is only three were shocked and said her behavior had them guessing she was five. A third, the owner of a pricey kids' boutique where we cleaned up on summer clearance items to put away for next year, has seen the girls in her small store three times now and admired the way the play in the corner she has set up with toys for children as the parents shop. Nat played with her sister and other children in that corner, sharing without being asked, and cleaning up cheerfully when requested. Most of the kids who use the corner don't bother to clean up at all.
So no, the people who asked about school weren't making veiled comments about Nat's bad behavior. If anything, they were asking "where did she learn such excellent social skills?"
And that is all. Defensive but proud Mama, over and out.