Anyway, Selina is certainly slobbering a lot more than usual lately. She is nearly four months old. How the heck did THAT happen? The month-to-month baby advice book (don't worry, I rarely take its advice) says to start thinking about solid foods (again, don't worry, it ain't gonna happen for another 6 weeks at least) which, however misguided, does make me realize how fast this is going.
I am sort of glad, because this baby stuff is really hard on me. And then when I feel glad, I feel guilty because I don't want to wish away such a sweet period of time that is already fleeting enough as it is.
Selina is such a cutie. She is a lot like Nat was as a baby, in the sense that she is a bit behind the curve on motor development (by her birthdate, not her adjusted date--she's somewhere between them, really) but right on, or ahead of it in social skills. She has only started sort of accidentally-on purpose finding her hands this week. She will bump them into each other, but then kind of go "oh, cool" and play with her fingers a lot. She's more tolerant of tummy time than Nat was, but that's not saying much. She will raise her head, arms and legs off the floor and squirm around with her tummy on the ground, trying to figure out how to get from Here to Somewhere Else (which Nat didn't really do much--Nat was always pretty content to just stay Here).
But she has started scouting rooms of strangers for someone whose eye she can catch for a little back-and-forth flirting. She will talk and coo and smile at the slightest provocation. She sometimes tries to chat with me after a middle-of-the-night bottle and I'm thinking maybe she'll be up with me when she's older, having tea at the kitchen table in the wee smalls.
She is not much of a napper. She definitely needs naps but she is loathe to sleep anywhere but on a human body (aka my body most of the time). Since I can't wear her at the moment, and I have a toddler to chase too, this is trying. (I rememebr Nat being this way, but I'd just read my way through a pile of books while rocking her in the chair. Can't do that with Nat running around).
The only place I can sometimes get her to sleep is in the bouncy seat, outside at the top of the stairs. If I sit her where she is looking through the wrought iron rails and the leaves of the Boston fern David hung there, and there's a slight breeze and some ambient noise--maybe the wind in the trees mixed with a little faint construction sounds from down the block--she will maybe be happy long enough to fall asleep on her own and stay asleep for an hour or almost two. I can take my laptop out there and sit in a lawn chair and give her a bounce with my foot every so often in the late mornings, if Nat is having her nap then, too.
But as for afternoon naps (which Nat doesn't take) we're stuck. I can't get Selina to be happy away from us and Nat is too active around us for Selina to get much lengthy sleeping in. So she dozes on and off in my arms/the bouncy seat. I really hope I can wear the wrap again soon, because she'd sleep through a hurricane in there, and we could use it for afternoons (and mornings when it's too cold to put her outside).
Nights are getting better, though. She's happy in her hammock from around 7 to around 5:30 with two wakeups between that vary in time depending on how late she had her last bottle before bed. She'd probably sleep until closer to 6 or 6:30 but she can't stand a messy diaper and she can't stand to hear Nat cry or sound upset (eg: have a tantrum) so when Nat rises at 5 or 5:30, announces "I'm awake" and then fake-cries when Cole-mom doesn't instantaneously appear at her side, Selina wakes, realizes her diaper is wet, and is completely done for the night.
This is why Cole sometimes goes to bed as early as 8pm and takes three-hour naps on the weekends. I wish I could take a three-hour nap. Cole would be happy to let me, but I can't sleep during the day.
"But hey, wait a minute, why is Nat getting up at 5???" you ask?
Beats me. It's still dark here at 5. I have no idea why she does it. Sometimes, if I'm feeling gracious and am awake anyway, I'll go to Nat at this ridiculous hour and tell her it's still night time. She'll usually go back to bed for another hour if I do that. Cole is her morning person, so if it's me, it must not be morning yet to her mind. I told Cole she needs to convince Nat it's not time to wake up until the sun is up (at least) but she is usually too sleepy to remember her own name, let alone start some complicated parenting task. So 5:00 it is. Maybe 5:30 if she's lucky.
I think Nat could be convinced to sleep until 6 or 6:30 under rpesent circumstances. But I also think she'd sleep until 7 if she was going to bed closer to 8. Right now we're kind of stuck in an early rut because she's wiped out by 10 am and it's all I can do to keep her awake until 11 for a nap. Then she's up from her nap at 12:30 or maybe 1 and wiped out by 6 pm at which point we force her to stay up until 7. But even when we're out or something and she misses her 7 bedtime, she will be up again at 5 the next morning.
Any ideas? Yes, I'm asking. Lay 'em on me.