We are back from Grammy and Granddaddy's.
A Selina brief:
Not sure about her actual weight, but she has developed squeezy baby cheeks, thighs and a butt. She is awake and alert for a good while between 8ish and 9ish pm. Her complexion has smoothed out from newborn splotchy to warm and glowing. She is gobbling down three oz every three hours and asking for more. I'm now filling her bottles to four oz. It took us five months to get Nat to four oz! As of today, Selina is 37 weeks gestation. So that's technically not a preemie anymore.
She seems to be a little reflux-y which we didn't notice before we traveled to Grammy's. We have the Amby Baby Hammock here which is great for reflux and Selina had no problems last week at home, but when we tried to put her to sleep flat in a travel bed, she was urpy and cried a lot. So I got no sleep at Grammy's, holding Selina upright against me in a chair most of the night for four nights. Last night, it was back to the hammock and no problems either keeping down the bottle or sleeping comfortably for Selina or Mama Shannon. Yea, baby hammock!
Nat is still doing pretty well. She has been seeking negative attention a lot more than usual, though. Fortunately, she doesn't do this by being mean or endangering the baby (so far!), but by climbing tables, grabbing people's drinks etc. when she sees you are temporarily handicapped by holding Selina. She has now formally been introduced to the concept of time out and so far it seems to work pretty well. We do a lot of "time-in"--a good deal more of it than time-out, since what she really needs is to be reassured that her place in the family is solid.
She loves Selina herself and tells everyone her baby sister is "See-na Babeena!" She likes to gently pet Selina's soft baby head and coo "so cute!" to her. She does "this litttle piggy" to Selina's toes and comments on how tiny all her parts are--ears, fingers, feet. It's hard for her to watch the baby accosted by adoring strangers in ways that she herself is used to. I try to divert their attention to her by asking her to tell them about her tiny baby. And she's a rock star, so it usually works out okay.
Answering some reader inquiries:
Selina is biracial. Her mother is African American and her mother's ex-boyfriend was white. Selina was very light (pale white and spotchy-red) when we picked her up, with caucasian-baby-blue eyes (the dark blue hazy eyes that are destined to change to brown). She's looking now a bit more like a white baby with a tan or a light-skinned Latina baby, as someone guessed.
We are hoping for as open an adoption as possible at this point. So far, Mama Fern says she wants letters, photos and visits, which is what we want. So we'll see how that goes too. In our first adoption we seemed to want the same thing at first, but it hasn't worked out that way so far. We are also being more cautious with our personal boundaries this time around after learning to take it slowly with Mama Ivy. So for the time being, we are using our obliging agency as an official go-between in communicating and setting up visits. Our first chance to meet Mama Fern will hopefully be Monday, when we're in Chicago for the court date (in Illinois you go to court at the beginning rather than at finalization.).
So wish us luck!